My blogging schedule is all out of whack since my fiance graduated from business school this weekend and I spent most of my days driving and entertaining both his and my family in California, but I’m taking a moment out of packing to share a quick wedding update! If you missed the (sort of) first one, make sure you check it out here. And here’s our engagement story!
After FOUR years of dating (and courting? what is life called once you’re engaged because dating doesn’t sound appropriate?) long distance across countries and continents, J is moving to New York! Ending our long distance was the first step in moving forward with wedding planning, so now that that’s done hopefully we can get the ball rolling to get this show on the road!
We have done some brainstorming here and there about the wedding, but no official plans have been made yet – especially the date – because we wanted to wait for the introduction, where both our families officially meet and his family receives permission from mine that we can actually move forward. Since we are from different countries and ethnic groups (he’s Luo from Kenya and I’m Igbo from Nigeria), it’s kind of cool that this ceremony exists in both cultures, though we are modifying things a bit to blend both cultures. The ceremony happens this weekend, so stay tuned for photos!
Now as for what we have already sorted out, here goes:
Wedding Colors: Black, White, and Gold
Since I’m classy and all, and African clothing is VERY colorful (you tell some aunties to wear red and then you have people showing up in burgundy, magenta, and hot pink just to be different *rolls eyes*), we decided to do a classic color scheme with black, white, and gold. A lot of Pinterest (you’re following my wedding board right?) pics with that color scheme show stripes or sequins, but we want to use different African fabrics like lace, ankara, and kitenge to add texture and pattern to the decor.
The biggest disagreement we’ve had so far about the wedding is the cake flavor – J has his heart set on fruit cake, which I’ve never had but don’t think sounds exciting enough to serve at a wedding! It’s a Christmas time cake and we’re not planning a holiday season wedding so it doesn’t make sense. I will probably surprise him (trust me, he’s not gonna read this) with a groom’s cake so he can be happy, or perhaps do the top layer of the cake a fruit cake so we can enjoy it later.
L-R: Zuhair Murad, Galia Lahav, Berta Bridal
So being a Nigerian bride, I’m going to wear numerous outfits, but for my main dress, the plan is to use a Nigerian designer to create a custom gown. The kind of looks I find myself drawn to are fitted mermaid cuts with sweetheart necklaces, lots of lace, low and detailed backs, and detachable trains/oveerlays. I’m considering going to a bridal salon soon just to try on a few different things and make sure I actually like on my body what my brain likes, so we shall see!
If you’re curious about J’s input on wedding planning, check out this video we recorded last week:
Feature Image: Kesha Lambert Photography